Katie, who has become the stepmother to Nicole's two adopted children, Isabella and Conor, when she married Tom Cruise, discusses their upbringing on several different occasions.
Hollywood pulse reveals:
"Katie was having lunch with friends in Beverly Hills when Isabella rang her to talk to her about a party she was going to.
Katie said, 'That was Bella. She wants to wear a dress to a birthday party but I think it is much too grown up for her. But she says her mother approves. So I need to check with Nicole.'
Then after she'd made the call to Nicole she told her friends, 'Nicole agrees with me. The dress is all wrong. The drama of it all! If I've learned one thing about teenagers, it's that little things mean a lot.' "
Katie, who also has a nine-month old baby girl, Suri, is hoping she can be a good mother to Isabella and Conor and wants to earn their love and respect on her own.
A source revealed to Britain's Hello magazine; "She didn't want the children to respect her only because Tom told them to, but rather because they wanted to.”